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Passive-Aggressive Behavior: Why it happens, and why it wears so thin

The first recorded instance of passive-aggressive behavior took place shortly after the invention of fire. A man named Grog sat stoking the new fire, cackling with glee as he piled giant logs into the flames. Eventually, he'd created a raging inferno. Nearby, Thunk snarled at Grog for making the cave too hot. Annoyed, Grog hurled … Continue reading Passive-Aggressive Behavior: Why it happens, and why it wears so thin

The loss of family estates and the rise of existential dread

Picture this: You have an extended family of 20 close relatives. You all live together in one giant house. You tend your gardens together, cook your meals together, do your laundry together. All chores are shared. All expenses are shared. You will grow up and grow old here. Your career will be in one of … Continue reading The loss of family estates and the rise of existential dread

The importance of rough play to create moral men

Took my son to a fair with a bouncy house. Little boys jumped around inside. The outside was ringed with women clustered at the windows, shrieking at the boys if they even came close to physical contact. They dragged boys out, scolding and shouting. Not a father in sight. Boys are naturally energetic, aggressive, competitive. … Continue reading The importance of rough play to create moral men

Are Transactional Relationships Bad?

Folks who read my book Exhausted Wives, Bewildered Husbands frequently write in with feedback on the presented skills. Most are pleased with the setup, but every so often I receive a specific sentiment I've heard many times: "Your method turns every relationship into a transactional exchange. Isn't that a bad thing?" I understand the sentiment, … Continue reading Are Transactional Relationships Bad?

I Can’t Do This Anymore: Dealing with Genre Burnout

So very often, we writers get a special idea in our head. “This time,” we think to ourselves, “I want to really wow my readers with a new type of story, something I’ve never written before.” Maybe we watched a particularly good mystery show (Murder She Wrote, anyone?), or we’re getting a horror itch. My … Continue reading I Can’t Do This Anymore: Dealing with Genre Burnout